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Alberta Canada - Adoption - American Women Taking Babies Away from Fathers - 1992

American TV Show 60-Minutes American Babies adopted out in Alberta Canada to defeat American fathers getting their babies. Joe W. SMITH Jr - v- Natalie Cash-MALOUF

Can you even imagine what would happen if fathers started giving their children away in foreign countries to avoid raising them and paying child support?

This lawyer alone in this 60 Minutes show was responsible for over 40 children being taken from their fathers

Joe W. SMITH Jr - v- Natalie Cash-MALOUF case is on this website. Read More ..

Birthfathers: The Forgotten Half of the Story

Adoptive families Magazine, by Eliza Newlin Carney, 2005, U.S.A.

From placing to reunion, birthfathers can often be relegated to non-entities, and they often are left to deal with feelings of guilt, shame, and anger on their own, without support;

In the classic children's story, The Mulberry Bird, the travails of "Mother Bird" are set forth in touching detail: her struggle to feed her baby bird; the storm that drives her to seek counsel from the wise Owl; her visit to the "seashore birds," who ultimately welcome the baby bird into their soft, safe nest. But one figure is all but missing from this poignant tale: Father Bird. The male who fathered baby bird is mentioned only in passing. Mother Bird "noticed that some of the other mothers had father birds to help them. Her baby's father had flown away long before she built her nest and laid the pale blue egg."

So it goes in the world of world of adoption, where a child's biological father is often relegated to a minor role or pushed offstage altogether. A birthmother making an adoptive placement may fail to name the baby's birthfather or even inform him of her plans. Adoptive parents may regard their child's birthfather with fear or suspicion. "In most adoption cases, everybody wants him [the birthfather] out of there," says Mary Martin Mason, the Minneapolis-based author of Out of the Shadows: Birthfathers' Stories, one of the few books that tackles the subject of birthfathers. "He's a legal problem. The birthfather and the birthmother may no longer be a couple. What happens is, he often exits, and everybody's glad he's exiting." An invisible birthfather, however, is no cause for celebration. Indeed, his exclusion can have dramatic legal and emotional consequences. In practical terms, adoptive parents who conveniently forget the birthfather subject themselves to serious legal risk. It's no coincidence that in the two most celebrated contested adoptions in the United States-the cases of Baby Jessica and Baby Richard-each involved a birthfather who learned only after the fact that his child had been placed for adoption, and who went to court to claim custody. Any responsible adoption lawyer will emphasize the birthfather's role during his very first interview with adoptive parents, says Washington, D.C., adoption attorney Mark McDermott.

"I refer to that as the number one way to avoid contested adoptions, by treating the birthfather as a real issue on day one," he says. McDermott noted that many birthmothers simply assume that things will be easier if he remains unnamed. The birthmother may not even be aware that the birthfather has legal rights. She also may have personal reasons for counting him out.

No social worker, lawyer, or adoptive parent can force a birthmother to name the birthfather if she is determined to keep him anonymous. But adoptive parents have the option of declining to work with a birthmother who is unable, or unwilling, to name the child's birthfather. For a couple longing for a baby, passing up a chance at parenthood may seem too much to ask. But the alternative-a post-placement revocation-is far worse.

Just ask Andrew and Barbara Ship, a Rockville, Maryland, couple whose first son, Aaron, was removed from their home after one month when his birthfather returned to claim custody. Andrew and Barbara had attended, and wept at, the baby's birth in Pennsylvania. They had brought him home to his nursery and conducted a "bris," the Jewish circumcision ceremony, with 100 relatives and friends in attendance. Yet when Aaron's biological father surfaced to say that he wanted the child back, a Pennsylvania adoption attorney informed the Ships that they had little legal standing. The agency that had arranged the placement had misled them: Aaron's birthfather had never relinquished his parental rights.

The Ships later adopted a daughter, Hannah, now four years old. But they approached this second adoption, arranged through a Florida agency, with a different attitude. "We knew what the rights of refusal were, we knew what the [interstate] compact laws were," Andrew said. Most importantly, when Hannah's birthfather proved slow to sign the consent, Andrew personally tracked him down. "I spoke to him on the phone," Andrew said. "I just said: 'Look, what's the story here? We want to adopt this lovely little girl and make her our daughter...Do you agree?'" The answer was yes, and Andrew and his wife regard Hannah as "a gift from God," the child that was meant to be theirs.

Some birthfathers contest an adoption, McDermott noted, not because they actually want to parent the child, but because they are angry at being treated as if they didn't exist. "Birthfathers will rarely object to the adoption if you involve them and show them a little bit of respect," he said. "The easiest way of forcing them into a contested adoption is by not respecting them, or by trying to exclude them." Even when there are no legal complications, a birthfather's disappearance can incur high emotional costs. For children who lack information about their biological parents, finding a birthfather can be frustrating. A child tends first to search for her birthmother, who may be the only person who knows the birthfather's identity. When BaltiRead More ..sident Sue Luecke-Schnuck started searching for her biological parents 14 years ago, at age 18, she was stymied by sealed adoption records. Now 32, Luecke-Schnuck has made considerable progress: she's established contact with her biological mother, and thanks to open records laws, she's obtained a variety of agency and public documents, including her birth certificate.

There's just one problem: her biological mother has refused to discuss the birthfather with her. She sent Luecke-Schnuck a letter that in essence said, "There is nothing to tell." Luecke-Schnuck's reaction was: "What do you mean, there's nothing more to tell? This is my biological father. This is half of my physical being."

Birthfathers, too, pay a price for staying in the shadows. Mason says that the birthfathers interviewed for her book "were incredibly sad to have lost their children." They were also plagued by remorse. "They were incredibly guilty," according to Mason. "This had affected their adult lives-their marriages, their jobs, their relationships. They weren't able to move on.

One problem that birthfathers face is that everyone around them assumes that they don't care. In fact, they may think about their biological children all the time. (For more on one birthfather's emotional adoption journey, see "Dear Andy," page 19.)"Very often, not only society at large but the birthmother herself thinks he's not going to care, or it's not something that's going to be very important to him. And I think, very often, it is very important to him," says Mary Weidenborner, of Spence-Chapin, a Manhattan-based adoption agency. To be sure, some birthfathers do fail to take responsibility-a failure shared, perhaps, by societal institutions that undervalue marriage, families, and children. But professionals in the field of adoption, which tends to be dominated by women, acknowledge that they have failed to reach out sufficiently to birthfathers.

"I think we have to become more birthfather friendly," says Weidenborner. She cites the need to recruit more male social workers, invite birthfathers to conferences, and tailor more literature to biological fathers. It can take a lot of courage, Weidenborner noted, for a birthfather to walk through the doors of an adoption agency. But, she adds, "I think there's much less guilt or shame when the birthfather feels that he came in with his eyes wide open and was able to make a plan that he thinks was good for the child." AF

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Day Care in Canada

CBC Television News Online, February 9, 2005

It was first proposed in 1970 a program that would provide affordable day care across the country. It was promised when Brian Mulroney and the Conservatives swept to power in 1984. And again four years later.

By the time Jean Chretien's Liberals did some political sweeping of their own in 1993, promises of a national day-care strategy had fallen victim to the realities of a government wallowing in debt. With budgetary knives sharpened and drawn, day care would have to wait.

But the economic climate began to shift and in 1997, Quebec introduced its own day-care system, offering spaces at $5 a day. Demand quickly surpassed supply.