Bullying Young Children - Girls

Girls Who Bully - Female Aggression

Although young girl bullies might be popular in the younger grades, the other students tend to turn against them by Grade 6.

We all had that neighbourhood bully that we all avoided after school. Usually the bully was a boy who liked to beat up kids smaller than him. Although boys use physical intimidation such as hitting, tripping, kicking and shoving, or stealing possessions, girls use psychological ammunition, something which is often more hurtful. Young girls often try to intimidate and emotionally bully others girls by not inviting them to birthday parties, not allowing others to befriend them on the playground or during lunch and by saying mean things about them.

Traits of Girl Bullies

  • use emotional bullying most often, though more girls are also using physical and cyber bullying
  • will spread rumours and gossip to ostracize other girls
  • will socially isolate other girls to intimidate them
  • tend to be quite capable, charismatic and have strong verbal skills
  • tend to fall out of favour at school, due to their bullying, by Grade 6

Reasons Girls turn to Bullying

  • According to the World Health Organization, 70% of aggressive girls have witnessed or experienced verbal, physical, or sexual abuse themselves.
  • Many girls observe their parents or caregivers withholding affection or acting out in order to manipulate people or situations. When their demands are met, they heap attention on the other person. Young girls will mimic this behaviour with their peers to get their way.
  • Media depictions are more likely to portray women who use violence to solve problems or gain respect.

Dealing with Girl Bullies

  • Ensure that you have a safe home environment.
  • Pay attention to how you treat others, especially those in the home.
  • Try to resolve conflicts in a way that does not involved manipulation or name-calling.
  • Be observant and be available for questions or help if your daughter needs it.
  • Enable your child to find additional activities where they fit in and are respected
  • Parents and teachers need training to teach girls to resolve conflict in non-violent ways and need to provide safe environments in which mediation and respect are the norm.

Bullying in Canada

L'incidence de l'intimidation au Canada

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Female Bullying - Aggression Study

"Relational aggression is behavior specifically intended to hurt another child's friendships or feelings of inclusion in a peer group." -

Nina S. Mounts, Ph.D.,
The Ohio State University
Human Development and Family Life Bulletin
A Review of Research and Practice
Volume 3, Issue 2, Summer 1997  Read More ..

American Psychological Association

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Dating Violence Statistics in the United States

Nearly one in 10 girls and one in 20 boys say they have been raped or experienced some other form of abusive violence on a date, according to a study released Sunday at the annual meeting of the American Psychological Association.

Teen depression on the increase in U.K.- teen suicide statistics

Teen depression on the increase

More and More teens are becoming depressed. The numbers of young people suffering from depression in the last 10 years has risen worryingly, an expert says.

BBC, UK, August 3, 2004

Government statistics suggest one in eight adolescents now has depression.

Unless doctors recognise the problem, Read More ..uld slip through the net, says Professor Tim Kendall of the National Collaborating Centre for Mental Health.

Guidelines on treating childhood depression will be published next year. Professor Kendall says a lot Read More ..eds to be done to treat the illness.

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Woman convicted of killing 3 kids after custody battle


HELSINKI, Finland - A court in Finland has convicted a woman of murdering her three young children and has given her a life sentence.

The Espoo District Court says Thai-born Yu-Hsiu Fu was found guilty of strangling her 8-year-old twin daughters and 1-year-old son in her home.

She tried to kill herself afterward.

The verdict on Tuesday says the 41-year-old woman was found to be of sound mind at the time of the murders.

Court papers show the murders were preceded by a bitter custody battle with her Finnish husband who was living separately from her at the time of the murders.

A life sentence in Finland mean convicts usually serve at least 11 years in prison.