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Newspaper Articles Archive 2021

Shame system hinders men from seeking proper mental health aid

Calgary Journal - By Charlotte Holmes, July 19, 2021

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It was a simple questionnaire Chad Guenter filled in while seeing his doctor that finally led to his diagnosis of depression.

Guenter, a firefighter with the city of Canmore, had been struggling for years with personal battles, after his brother was diagnosed with bi-polar disorder as a teenager and other family issues.

He didn’t know why he was feeling the way he was, so he just didn’t address them, until they overtook him.

After being diagnosed with depression, Guenter started taking medication and found healing by connecting with nature.

Homewood Health estimates each year one million men in Canada will suffer from major depression. Statistics Canada has found the suicide rates of men are roughly three times higher than women, in their respective age group.

The issue is such a concern that the Centre for Suicide Prevention has come out saying “men are in crisis.”

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Guenter says through his work he has started to know too many people who were taking their lives or attempting to.

Dan McKinnon, a registered psychologist who helped found and bring the Canadian Centre for Men and Families (CCMF) to Alberta says one possibility behind the higher suicide rates among men is their reluctance to seek help.

“Men are brought up often to be agents in their life. To act and adapt and go from there.”

The aim of the centre, which provides research and services and advocacy for men’s issues, is to help individuals with varying needs, from those needing camaraderie to those in full financial strain who have no housing.

McKinnon says stereotypes such as ‘men should be strong,’ or ‘a man shouldn’t cry’ are part of what he calls the “shame system.”

“Those cultural stereotypes of masculinity and North American culture lead to men showing up in a certain way and that way leads to more stress and the stress that men encounter in their lives also feeds into certain mental health conditions for some.”

Guenter saw this with his own father and grandfather, who were more conditioned to show less emotion — something that rubbed off on his own generation.

“As a man, you might appear vulnerable or weak or looked at as someone who might not be able to handle life if they show emotion or break down or just be vulnerable in general about their mental health — or they might be looked at as ‘not a man,’” he said. Read More ..


Toronto Sun

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London, Ont. mom gave nude images of daughters, their friends to secret boyfriend

TORONTO SUN, By Jane Sim, July 16, 2021

52-year-old was sentenced to four years in prison for voyeurism and five other child pornography counts

London, ON - Clandestine photos and videos of her daughters and friends, taken while they changed clothes in a bathroom, were made to satisfy the sexual urges of her secret boyfriend.

She kept up the steady diet of images and text messages for almost a decade, while keeping up appearances as a wife, a mother, a Sunday school teacher and a school volunteer.

"I can't say how sorry I am. I don't expect forgiveness but I hope in time they will,' the 52-year-old London woman said tearfully to Ontario Court Justice Allan Maclure before he sentenced her to four years in prison for voyeurism and five other child pornography counts.

"I have prayed for and will continue to pray for healing for all of the victims, because, with God, all things are possible and he can heal them. I'm so sorry,' she said.

That was a bit rich for the judge. Before agreeing to a joint sentencing submission, Maclure took the woman to the judicial woodshed, calling what she did "depraved,' "exploitive,' "offensive,' "perverted' and "utterly disgusting.'

And what she said about a higher power healing everyone came off "as both offensive and trite.'

"For you to so easily say God will heal them is to trivialize what's occurred to these children and their families and perhaps to trivialize your own responsibility, " Maclure said.

The judge's sharp comments came after hearing what the woman did with her daughters and playmates during a 10-year extramarital affair, plus the emotional victim impact statements from parents who once called her a friend.

A court-ordered publication ban is in place to protect the identities of the victims.

Assistant Crown attorney Andrea Mason told Maclure the London police found images of two sisters, one of whom was seven years old, and some of two other sisters from another family, on the man's electronic devices.

Police traced images to the sisters' mother, arrested her and searched her home. She admitted to the affair and to taking nude photos of her daughters and their friends to send to her boyfriend. The photos police found were taken between 2014 and 2020 showing her daughters in the bathtub, and all the girls dressing or undressing. Read More ..


London Free Press

Mom gave nude images of daughters, their friends to secret boyfriend

Clandestine photos and videos of her daughters and friends, taken while they changed clothes in a bathroom, were made to satisfy the sexual urges of her secret boyfriend.

Proceeds from her book to fund school programs

The London Free Press, by Jane Sims, July 15, 2021

EDITOR’S NOTE: This story contains details that may disturb readers.

Clandestine photos and videos of her daughters and friends, taken while they changed clothes in a bathroom, were made to satisfy the sexual urges of her secret boyfriend.

She kept up the steady diet of images and text messages for almost a decade, while keeping up appearances as a wife, a mother, a Sunday school teacher and a school volunteer.

“I can’t say how sorry I am. I don’t expect forgiveness but I hope in time they will," the 52-year-old London woman said tearfully to Ontario Court Justice Allan Maclure before he sentenced her to four years in prison for voyeurism and five other child pornography counts.

“I have prayed for and will continue to pray for healing for all of the victims, because, with God, all things are possible and he can heal them. I’m so sorry," she said.

That was a bit rich for the judge. Before agreeing to a joint sentencing submission, Maclure took the woman to the judicial woodshed, calling what she did “depraved," “exploitive," “offensive," “perverted" and “utterly disgusting."

And what she said about a higher power healing everyone came off “as both offensive and trite."

“For you to so easily say God will heal them is to trivialize what’s occurred to these children and their families and perhaps to trivialize your own responsibility," Maclure said.

The judge’s sharp comments came after hearing what the woman did with her daughters and playmates during a 10-year extramarital affair, plus the emotional victim impact statements from parents who once called her a friend. Read More ..