Information for parents about bullying

Your child has always enjoyed learning, but lately seems eager to avoid school. Stomach aches and mysterious illnesses pop up in the evening and seem to get worse as the school bus creeps closer to your street the next morning. It's possible the problem has nothing to do with how last night's dinner was digested. Your child could be worried sick over a schoolyard bully.

Bullies can take the fun out of school where bullying happens most and turn something simple like a ride on the bus, stop at a locker, or walk to the bathroom into a scary event that's anticipated with worry all day.

Children who are bullied often experience low self-esteem and depression, whereas those doing the bullying may go on to engage in more destructive, antisocial behaviours as teens and adults. Bullies, who often have been bullied themselves, may pick on others to feel powerful, popular, important, or in control. Often, they antagonize the same children repeatedly.

Sadly, bullying is widespread. According to a U.S. 2004 poll of children, 86% of more than 1,200 9- to 13-year-old boys and girls polled said they've seen someone else being bullied, 48% said they've been bullied, and 42% admitted to bullying other kids at least once in a while.

If your child is a victim of bullying, you can help reduce intimidation and fear by listening and offering to help. If your child is the bully, you'll need to emphasize that this kind of behaviour is unacceptable, as well as discuss why he or she might be doing it and how to stop it.

The Different Ways Kids Bully - Bullying behaviour

Bullying behaviour isn't always easy to define. Where do you draw the line between good-natured ribbing and bullying? Although teasing resembles bullying because it can prompt feelings of anger or embarrassment, teasing can be less hostile and done with humour, rather than harm. Teasing often promotes an exchange between people rather than a one-sided dose of intimidation.

Although the black eye is a concrete sign that your child may be a victim of bullying, there are many different ways kids bully that aren't always as easy to spot:

• Cyber bullying a relatively new phenomenon began surfacing as modern communication technologies advanced. Through email, instant messaging, Internet chat rooms, and electronic gadgets like camera cell phones, cyber bullies forward and spread hurtful images and/or messages. Bullies use this technology to harass victims at all hours, in wide circles, at warp speed.
• Emotional bullying can be more subtle and can involve isolating or excluding a child from activities (i.e., shunning the victim in the lunchroom or on school outings) or spreading rumours. This kind of bullying is especially common among girls.
• Physical bullying can accompany verbal bullying and involves things like kicking, hitting, biting, pinching, hair pulling, or threats of physical harm. 
• Racist bullying preys on children through racial slurs, offensive gestures, or making jokes about a child's cultural traditions. 
• Sexual bullying involves unwanted physical contact or sexually abusive or inappropriate comments. 
• Verbal bullying usually involves name-calling, incessant mocking, and laughing at a child's expense.

Also, despite the common notion that bullying is a problem mostly among boys, both boys and girls bully. But boys and girls can vary in the ways they bully. Girls tend to inflict pain on a psychological level. For example, they might ostracize victims by freezing them out of the lunchroom seating arrangements, ignoring them on the playground, or shunning them when slumber party invitations are handed out.

Boys aren't as subtle and they can get physical. For example, boy bullies are more apt to insult their victims on the playground than ignore them. Instead of isolating a non-athletic victim during a gym class dodgeball game, they might take relentless aim and target the child throw after throw.

Why Kids Bully

There are many reasons why kids may become bullies. Bullies frequently target people who are different. Then, they seek to exploit those differences. They choose victims who they think are unlikely to retaliate. That means children who are overweight, wear glasses, or have obvious physical differences like big ears or severe acne are common subjects for ridicule. But the differences don't have to be just physical. Children who learn at a different pace or are anxious or insecure can also be targets for bullies.

Bullies may also turn to this abusive behaviour as a way of dealing with a difficult situation at home, such as a divorce. Bullies might not realize how hurtful their actions can be, but some know the pain firsthand because they've been bullied or have been victims of abuse themselves. Some bullies think their behaviour is normal because they come from families in which everyone regularly gets angry, shouts, and/or calls names. They copy what they know. And just like the children they're tormenting, bullies often have low self-esteem.

Whatever the cause, bullies usually pick on others as a way of dealing with their own problems. Sometimes, they pick on kids because they need a victim someone who seems emotionally or physically weaker to try to gain acceptance and feel more important, popular, or in control. Although some bullies are bigger or stronger than their victims, bullies can come in all shapes and sizes.

Signs That a Child Is Being Bullied

Of course, bumps and bruises are telltale signs your child has been physically bullied, but you can watch for other less obvious hints, too:

• inventing mysterious illnesses to avoid school (for example, stomachaches, headaches, etc.)
• missing belongings or money
• sleeping problems
• bed wetting
• irritability
• poor concentration
• unexpected changes in routine
• problems with schoolwork

Being bullied can also have long-term consequences, affecting the way children form relationships as adolescents and adults and even possibly leading to more serious problems like substance abuse and depression. In addition, bully victims are more likely to experience withdrawn behaviour such as anxiety and depression.

How to Help if Your Child Is Being Bullied

Being a good listener is one of the best ways to comfort your child. Just talking about the problem and knowing you care can be helpful. Your child is likely to feel vulnerable while discussing bullying and how it makes him or her feel, so it's important to show your love and support.

If you find out that your child is being bullied, don't add to the burden by becoming angry. Although it's understandable to be upset, be careful not to let your child see that. Your sadness could be misinterpreted as disappointment. Be sure to validate your child's feelings don't minimize them.

You should also reassure your child that he or she isn't to blame. Explain that bullies are often confused or unhappy people who don't feel good about themselves.

Also consider asking your child thoughtful questions, such as:

• What's it like walking to the bus stop or home from school?
• What's it like on the bus ride to and from school?
• What happens on the playground during recess or before or after school?
• What happens in the hallways at school or during lunchtime?
• Have any bullies in the neighbourhood or at school threatened anyone you know?
• Do some kids you know get emails, instant messages, or text messages that are upsetting, threatening, or insulting?

This approach might make it easier for your child to talk about bullies because it isn't as personal and emphasizes that other kids experience bullying, too.

Artwork and drawings or puppets may prompt younger victims to talk about bullies. Older children, however, may be helped by direct questions, like asking them to talk about their "friends" and "enemies."

But telling your child what to actually do about bullying can be another story. The national U.S. poll showed that 46% of the children surveyed who said they've been bullied respond by fighting back, a solution that can just make things worse. Boys in the poll were more likely to say they would fight back than girls (53% of boys vs. 38% of girls), whereas girls were more likely to say they would talk to an adult than boys (32% of girls vs. 19% of boys).

The key to helping your child deal with bullying is to help him or her regain a sense of dignity and recover damaged self-esteem. To help ward off bullies, give your child these tips:

• Hold the anger. It's natural to want to get really upset with a bully, but that's exactly the response the bully is aiming for. Not only will getting angry or violent not solve the problem, it will only make it worse. Bullies want to know they have control over your child's emotions. Each time they get a reaction from your child, it adds fuel to the bully's fire getting angry just makes the bully feel more powerful.
• Never get physical or bully back. Emphasize that your child should never use physical force (like kicking, hitting, or pushing) to deal with a bully. Not only does that show anger, but your child can never be sure what the bully will do in response. Tell your child that it's best to hang out with others, stay safe, and get help from an adult.
• Act brave, walk away, and ignore the bully. Tell your child to look the bully in the eye and say something like, "I want you to stop right now." Counsel your child to then walk away and ignore any further taunts. Encourage your child to "walk tall" and hold his or her head up high (using this type of body language sends a message that your child isn't vulnerable). Bullies thrive on the reaction they get, and by walking away, or ignoring hurtful emails or instant messages, your child will be telling the bully that he or she just doesn't care. Sooner or later, the bully will probably get bored with trying to bother your child.
• Use humour. In a situations where your child has to deal with a bully and can't walk away with poise, tell him or her to use humour or offer a compliment to throw the bully off guard. However, tell your child not to use humour to make fun of the bully.
• Tell an adult. If your child is being bullied, emphasize that it's very important to tell an adult. Teachers, principals, parents, and lunchroom personnel at school can all help to stop it. Studies show that schools where principals crack down on this type of behaviour have less bullying.
• Talk about it. It may help your child to talk to a guidance counsellor, teacher, or friend anyone who can give the support your child needs. Talking can be a good outlet for the fears and frustrations that can build when your child is being bullied.
• Use the buddy system. Enlisting the help of friends or a group may help both your child and others stand up to bullies. The bully wants to be recognized and feel powerful, after all, so a lot of bullying takes part in the presence of peers. If the bully is picking on another child, tell your child to point out to the bully that his or her behaviour is unacceptable and is no way to treat another person. This can work especially well in group situations (i.e., when a member of your child's circle of friends starts to pick on or shun another member). Tell your child to make a plan to buddy up with a friend or two on the way to school, on the bus, in the hallways, or at recess or lunch wherever your child might meet the bully. Tell your child to offer to do the same for a friend who's having trouble with a bully. When one person speaks out against a bully, it gives others license to add their support and take a stand, too.
• Develop more friendships by joining social organizations, clubs, or sports programs. Encourage regular play or social visits with other children at your home. Being in a group with other kids may help to build your child's self-esteem and give your child a larger group of positive peers to spend time with and turn to.

Of course, you may have to intervene in persistent cases of bullying. That can involve going to school with your child and talking to your child's teacher, school counsellor, or principal. In certain extreme cases it may be necessary to contact legal authorities. Safety should be everyone's concern. If you've tried the previous methods and still feel the need to speak to the bullying child's parents, it's best to do so within the context of the school, where a school official, such as a counsellor, can mediate.

If Your Child Is the Bully

Learning your child is the bully can be shocking. But it's important to remain calm and avoid becoming defensive, as that can make a bad situation worse. You may have a greater impact if you express disappointment not anger to your child.

Because bullying often stems from unhappiness or insecurity, try to find out if something is bothering your child. Children who bully aren't likely to confess to their behaviour, but you'll need to try to get your child to talk by asking some specific, hard-hitting questions, such as:

• How do you feel about yourself?
• How do you think things are going at school and at home?
• Are you being bullied?
• Do you get along with other kids at school?
• How do you treat other children?
• What do you think about being considered a bully?
• Why do you think you're bullying?
• What might help you to stop bullying?

To get to the bottom of why your child is hurting others, you may also want to schedule an appointment to talk to your child's school counsellor or another mental health professional (your child's doctor should be able to refer you to someone).

If you suspect that your child is a bully, it's important to address the problem to try to mend your child's mean ways. After all, bullying is violence, and it often leads to more antisocial and violent behaviour as the bully grows up. In fact, as many as one out of four elementary school bullies have a criminal record by the time they're 30. Some teen bullies also end up being rejected by their peers and lose friendships as they grow older. Bullies may also fail in school and may not have the career or relationship success that other people enjoy.

Helping Your Child Stop Bullying

Although certainly not all bullying stems from family problems, it's a good idea to examine the behaviour and personal interactions your child witnesses at home. If your child lives with taunting or name-calling from a sibling or from you or another parent, it could be prompting aggressive or hurtful behaviour outside the home. What may seem like innocent teasing at home may actually model bullying behaviours. Children who are on the receiving end of it learn that bullying can translate into control over children they perceive as weak.

Constant teasing whether it's at home or at school can also affect a child's self-esteem. Children with low self-esteem can grow to feel emotionally insecure. They can also end up blaming others for their own shortcomings. Making others feel bad (bullying) can give them a sense of power.

Of course, there will be moments that warrant constructive criticism: for example, "I counted on you to put out the trash and because you forgot, we'll all have to put up with that stench in the garage for a week." But take care not to let your words slip into criticizing the person rather than the behaviour: "You're so lazy. I bet you just pretend to forget your chores so you don't have to get your hands dirty." Focus on how the behaviour is unacceptable, rather than the person.

Home should be a safe haven, where children aren't subjected to uncomfortable, harsh criticism from family and loved ones.

In addition to maintaining a positive home atmosphere, there are a number of ways you can encourage your child to give up bullying:

• Emphasize that bullying is a serious problem. Make sure your child understands you will not tolerate bullying and that bullying others will have consequences at home. For example, if your child is cyber bullying, take away the technologies he or she is using to torment others (i.e., computer, cell phone to text message or send pictures). Or instruct your child to use the Internet to research bullying and note strategies to reduce the behaviour. Other examples of disciplinary action include restricting your child's curfew if the bullying and/or teasing occur outside of the home; taking away privileges, but allowing the opportunity to earn them back; and requiring your child to do volunteer work to help those less fortunate.
• Teach your child to treat people who are different with respect and kindness. Teach your child to embrace, not ridicule, differences (i.e., race, religion, appearance, special needs, gender, economic status). Explain that everyone has rights and feelings.
• Find out if your child's friends are also bullying. If so, seek a group intervention through your child's principal, school counsellor, and/or teachers.
• Set limits. Stop any show of aggression immediately and help your child find non-violent ways to react.
• Observe your child interacting with others and praise appropriate behaviour. Positive reinforcement is Read More ..werful than negative discipline.
• Talk with school staff and ask how they can help your child change his or her bad behaviour. Be sure to keep in close contact with the staff.
• Set realistic goals and don't expect an immediate change. As your child learns to modify behaviours, offer assurances that you still love him or her it's the behaviour you don't like.

Getting Help for Both Bullies and Kids Being Bullied

A big part of helping your child is not being afraid to ask others for assistance and advice. Whether your child is being bullied or is the one doing the bullying, you may need to get outside help. In addition to talking to your child's teachers, you may also want to take advantage of school counselling services and consult your child's doctor, who may be able to refer you to a mental health professional.

You may also want to talk to the school principal about bullying policies. For example, ask how bullies are disciplined and whether areas where bullies harass people, like stairwells or courtyards, are observed by staff. Voice your concerns to teachers, fellow parents, school bus drivers, school counsellors, the school board, and the parent-teacher association. If your child's school doesn't already have one, start an antiviolence program. If the environment at your child's school supports bullying, working to change it may help.

Canada's largest daily newspaper

Why Canada can't stop bullies

The Toronto Star, Noor Javed, STAFF REPORTER, November 19, 2009

Daniel Sebben was just 13 when the taunts began. Day after day, for the next three years, the Newmarket high school student faced homophobic slurs, insults and verbal abuse from a group of six boys.

He would come home upset, confused and fearful of what they might do to him the next day, said mom Karen Sebben.

His marks slid. He became depressed. He began cutting himself and eventually attempted suicide.

"He emotionally bottomed out. Every day, he was convinced they were going to get him."

But it was also the lack of support within the "chain of command" at school, among superintendents and those at the board level that left the family distraught. The aggressor was suspended for a few days, and when he returned, things got worse for her son, she said. Read More ..

January, 2006

Cyberbullying

Legislative Assembly of Prince Edward Island
Standing Committee on Social Development

"Cyberbullying is sending or posting harmful or cruel text or images using the Internet or other digital communication devices. It is a challenging issue facing educators and parents."

Public Consultations held by The Legislative Assembly of Prince Edward Island

Standing committee transcripts in PDF format January 12, 2006  February 23, 2006  March 09, 2006

From the Address by the Hon. James K. Bartleman at his Installation as the 27th Lieutenant Governor of Ontario

Queens Park ( The Legislative Assembly of Ontario ), Toronto, Ontario, March 7, 2002

"As a Canadian with Aboriginal as well as white roots, I bring a particular regard for the positive role that the Crown has played in Aboriginal affairs over the centuries. The Royal Proclamation of 1763, enshrined in our Constitution of 1982, provided Native peoples with rights not enjoyed elsewhere in the Americas. It was one of my predecessors, in fact, who sought to banish the people from the Lake Simcoe Muskoka area to Northern Ontario in the way that the Americans banished the people from the easterly Appalachians into the Oklahoma area and it was the Crown that stepped in in the late 1830s and stopped that.

My background accounts also for my lifelong visceral hatred of racism. I've never forgotten how normal it was considered, when I was young, to wound the children of minority communities with vulgar epithets and engage in racist bullying . Today, thankfully, our society no longer condones that sort of behaviour, but we must never cease to combat all the forms of discrimination and abuse that do remain.".

Canada's largest daily newspaper

The artful menace of female bullying

Toronto Star, by Cathal Kelly, March 28, 2009

When I was 10, a classmate named Dino would terrorize me after school each day. It became a tired ritual. Dino would wait just off school property. Despite my feeble attempts at evasion, Dino would spot me and chase me down. Once caught, I got a drawn-out beating and went home snivelling.

Eventually, word filtered up to my mother. She tried the new-world way by talking to teachers. When that didn't work, she retreated to territory Read More ..miliar to someone raised in rural Ireland: violence.

She held one small fist up to my face for emphasis and said, "When he's not looking, jump him and kick him senseless." Fear of my mother trumped fear of any bully. I worked myself up into a teary frenzy.

When Dino innocently passed in my general direction, I turned on him like a rabid squirrel. Read More .. account of surprise than fighting ability, I found myself on top of him. I grabbed two handfuls of hair and pranged his head into the playground asphalt until I'd opened a good-sized gash. Dino and I were never exactly friendly after that, but we had established an understanding. Read More ..

Workplace bullies tend to be women
Victims often Read More ..illed than their attackers, U.S. expert says

Canadian Press, various newspapers across Canada, National Post, Global TV, Tuesday, May 09, 2006

VANCOUVER -- A new study suggests that the majority of workplace bullies are female co-workers who target other women with less talent, and experts suggest that businesses that want to improve their bottom line would do well to purge the bullies from the payroll who are repeatedly ridiculing and humiliating others in the workplace.

Gary Namie told an overflow audience in Vancouver on Monday that people who are targeted at the office by a supervisor or co-worker may think they're alone, but their numbers are growing to epidemic proportions. Read More ..

Companies must deal with workplace bullies or lose brightest employees: expert

Canadian Press - various newspapers across Canada, May 08, 2006

VANCOUVER (CP) - Businesses that want to improve their bottom line would do well to purge the bullies on the payroll who are repeatedly ridiculing and humiliating others in the workplace, says a psychologist.

Gary Namie told an overflow audience Monday that people who are targeted at the office by a supervisor or co-worker may think they're alone, but their numbers are growing to epidemic proportions. Read More ..

The Guardian

Girls are now bigger bullies than boys

Charity says increase in 'girl-to-girl' cruelty blights lives and is in danger of escalating out of control

Tracy McVeigh, education editor, Sunday November 10, 2002

The Observer, The Guardian U.K.

Bullying is now far more prevalent among girls than boys and is blighting the future of a generation of young women.

A leading charity has uncovered a huge rise in 'girl-to-girl cruelty', leading to unprecedentedly high numbers leaving school with little or no qualifications and going on to lead disaffected lives.

The Young Woman's Christian Association (YWCA), whose patron is the Queen, is now to put pressure on the Government to set up a working party to look at ways of tackling the effect of schoolgirl bullying.

In a briefing report entitled 'If Looks Could Kill: Young Women and Bullying', the welfare charity for women says it believes bullying is a major underlying issue in girls' truanting and taking time off sick from school. It points to a study that found half of a random selection of 3,000 schoolgirls experienced bullying and said the problem was in danger of escalating out of control.

Mananda Hendessi, head of policy and campaigns at the YWCA, said bullies themselves were also at risk of going on to lead damaged lives, of becoming involved in girl gangs, criminality, and drug and alcohol abuse.

'Girls are now more involved in sustained bullying than boys and they have more fear of going to school,' she said.

'We have been finding that girls who are self-excluding from school or even taking a lot of time off sick have actually been bullied. We find these young women leaving school with no qualifications and going on to become teenage pregnancy statistics or worse. It is especially a grave issue among ethnic minorities where racist bullying goes undetected. These girls leave school with their self-esteem and confidence crushed.'

Hendessi said moves to tackle bullying and truancy were failing females. 'This is a huge problem that's going unnoticed. Young men dominate the agenda on truancy, exclusions and because they present aggressive and more obvious antisocial behaviours. The girls are suffering in far more violence and the bullying they experience is more emotionally damaging.'

For Fatima Kelly, a mixed race teenager from the West Midlands, bullying, name calling and a campaign of nasty text messaging led to her being so scared to go to school that she faked bulimia, even to her doctor, in order to be allowed to stay at home.

Now 19, and five months pregnant, she still cannot talk about her schooldays without weeping. 'My mum would have been so upset if I'd told her what was going on so I didn't tell anyone. I just pretended to be ill. I threw my mobile away once but my mum bought me a new one and gets upset if I don't have it with me.

'The girls at school made my life there hell. They still do really because I still see some of them around town, I'm always looking out for them whenever I go out; it makes me feel sick in busy places in case I bump into one of them.

'I wanted to be a dentist, but I was never at school in the last two years. They never let up, never. One of my counsellors told me it was tragic that I was not at university but going to be a single mother. I suppose it is sad and I know it hurts my mother.'

Hendessi believes Fatima's story is more common than is realised and a report from the Schools Health Education Unit has stated 'it is girls who report more fear of attending school because of bullying'.

Despite initial research in the Nineties suggesting boys were responsible for a large part of the bullying girls were subjected to, the YWCA paper will add to the growing evidence that girl-to-girl cruelty is the norm.

National Film Board of Canada / Office National du Film du Canada

Documentary

It's a Girl's World 

What does the social world of girls look like? At first glance, its about sharing secrets, giggling over boys and carefree fun. But lurking underneath this faade of niceness is a hidden culture of nastiness that pits one friend against another. Its a Girls World ultimately shatters the myth that social bullying among girls is an acceptable part of growing up.

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"Kelly Ellard Convicted of Killing Virk" read the recent headlines in Canadian papers. Reena Virk was only 14 years old when she was found brutally beaten and drowned in a Victoria, B.C. waterway in 1997. Kelly Ellard, after two previous trials for the same crime, was found guilty of second-degree murder and faces an automatic life sentence. Stories like this of the complex world of girl bullying continue to be in the forefront of today's media.

The powerful NFB documentary It's a Girls World is a journey into the complicated social structure of 10-year-old girls. At first glance, it's a world of birthday parties, playing tag, skipping, and sharing secrets. However, underneath this facade is a hidden culture of nastiness that turns friends one against the other. This is the foundation of girl bullying.

It's a Girl's World uses audio and video diaries to take us through the tumultuous and startling actuality of a bullying incident on a playground. We watch the girls wield every covert weapon in their arsenal - shunning, whispering, and mean looks - to win social power in the group. At the same time, their parents struggle through denial and disbelief before they can accept and deal with the serious consequences of this behaviour.

Aired on TVO ( Ontario's Government-owned educational television network), June 12, 2005 at 7 PM

The website information about this documentary can be found at the National Film Board of Canada 

Rihanna, M.T. trial

Feminism in the Web era: It ain't pretty

Globe and Mail, by JUDITH TIMSON, March 24, 2009

Recent events have made me wonder despairingly whether decades of modern feminism have made any significant dent at all in the quality of relationships between young women and men.

The Web chatter by teenage girls who have been casually forgiving of rapper Chris Brown's alleged battering of his girlfriend, singer Rihanna, has stymied me. If you judge by some of the posts, many girls seem to think she must have done something to provoke it, or that she is equally to blame. A New York Times story last week, headlined "Teenage girls stand by their man," quoted one Grade 9er: "She probably made him mad for him to react like that. You know, like, bring it on?"

Equally frustrating were the soulless text messages from the shocking M.T. murder trial in Toronto, in which a 17-year-old girl who can only be identified as M.T. was convicted of first-degree murder last week after spurring her boyfriend to stab another girl to death, partly in exchange for sexual favours. Read More ..

Edmonton passes anti-bullying bylaw
Measure will be useful tool, police explain

Toronto Star, by ISABEL TEOTONIO, Mar. 11, 2003

EDMONTON (CP) - Edmonton became the first Canadian city today to make bullying illegal and fine tormentors a minimum of $250.

Supporters say they hope the new bylaw will make young people think twice before threatening and intimidating anyone.

"It won't deter everybody, but hopefully it will have an effect on some students," said Coun. Jane Batty, chair of the community services board that put forth the issue.  Read More ..

Government of British Columbia - Ministry of Education - News release

PROVINCE PROCLAIMS ANTI-BULLYING DAY

VANCOUVER - The Province is proclaiming Feb. 27 as Anti-Bullying Day to support efforts to end bullying in schools and communities across the province, Premier Gordon Campbell announced today.

"Nobody likes a bully and we all have to take a stand to stop bullying," said Campbell. "Anti-Bullying Day is a celebration of those who take action to stop bullies in our schools and around the province. It starts with all of us saying bullying is wrong and then standing up for those who become targets. We all benefit when everyone feels safe and secure in their schools, neighbourhoods and province."

Anti-Bullying Day highlights British Columbia's commitment to a safe and inclusive province and is an opportunity to actively promote respectful and kind behaviour among citizens. It recognizes efforts to build communities that foster respect, fairness, equity and compassion, and to celebrate the actions of individuals, schools and communities to address bullying, harassment and intimidation. Read More ..

Schools

Canadian Safe Schools Network www.cssn.org

Guidelines for effective action  www.education.unisa.edu.au/bullying 

Bullying fact sheet www.lfcc.on.ca/bully.htm 

British Columbia Centre for Safe Schools & Communities  www.iss-bc.ca 

Newfoundland and Labrador Department of Education Safe and Caring Schools Initiative  www.ed.gov.nl.ca/edu/dept/safesch.htm 

Children

Dealing with Bullies

Games and lessons for childrenwww.bullying.org 

Canadian Safe Schools Network for Students www.canadiansafeschools.com/ 

Kids Help Phone Line www.kidshelpphone.ca 

Parents, guardians and caregivers

Fact sheet for parents  www.kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/ behavior /bullies.html 

Canadian Safe Schools Network  http://www.canadiansafeschools.com/parents/overview.htm 

Coalition for Children, Inc.www.kidshelp.sympatico.ca/en 

General sources for all

Don't Suffer in Silence - UK www.dfes.gov.uk/bullying 

Concerned Children's Advertisers www.cca-kids.ca 

Canadian Initiative for the Prevention of Bullying www.b-free.ca 

The Society for Safe and Caring Schools and Communities www.sacsc.ca 

The Canadian Safe School Network 

School Safety  , Safecanada

R.C.M.P. - Be Bright, Think Right 

www.bullying.org 

Bullying in schools and what to do about it 

Let's talk About Bullying 

Bullying and Victimization: The Problems and Solutions for School-aged Children  , Public Safety Canada's National Crime Prevention Centre (NCPC) is responsible for implementing the National Crime Prevention Strategy (NCPS).

Bully B'Ware  , Port Moody,  BC

BBC Learning, UK  

Stay Alert / Stay Safe,  Curriculum Services Canada

No Bullying - New Zealand  Advice to caregivers. Interesting guidelines for schools, video

Dream: A Tale of Wonder, Wisdom and Wishes

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From the smallest personal beginnings to the largest human triumphs, why are we here if not to dream? As you open this Dream Chest, you're whisked away on a colourful journey in which the young discover all the possibilities within themselves and adults are reminded that their best can be just ahead. Remarkable illustrations, inspiring quotations, and a beautifully resonant story reveal Read More ..th each reading. A celebration of living and dreaming, this is a book to treasure, to share, and to give as a gift - for everyone, at any age, who dreams.

Winner of an iParenting Award as one of the best new family books of the Fall, as well as the American Teachers' Choice for the Family Award, a prestigious family book award selected by American educators. HC, 40pp. Ages 8+.

Proceeds go to support The Canadian Safe School Network  . For free activities to use with the Dream book and further information on the Safe Schools Read More ..