Toronto Star

She sought asylum in Toronto as an unaccompanied minor. A new facility will help others like her get emergency housing and other help

Anchor House - at an undisclosed location - is believed to be the first emergency housing in Canada dedicated to unaccompanied refugee youth.

Tracy Muriithi-immigrant
Tracy Muriithi, 23, who is a former unaccompanied minor refugee from Kenya, is pictured in one of the girls' rooms inside the Anchor House. The first youth moved in Monday. The Centre for Refugee Children opened it to provide emergency shelter for newly arrived unaccompanied minors.

Toronto Star, By Nicholas Keung, Senior Immigration Reporter, Feb. 25, 2025

Tracy Muriithi had never been away from her family, let alone travelling outside Kenya on her own.

When she landed in Toronto in January 2019 after a 20-hour flight via Germany, the then 17-year-old followed the signs to Customs and had no idea what she was supposed to do. She didn't even have a winter coat. Although she came here on a student visa, there was a darker reason for her travel, and the border guards questioned her. “They were like, 'Why are you coming from home? Are you really coming here to study?' ” recalled Muriithi, now 23.

“I was very scared. I'm going to this new country where I don't know anything or anyone. The only thing I was banking on was that I could speak a bit of English. And I know my parents are not there to help me because we're time zones and time zones away.”

The truth was, said Muriithi, her parents sent her to Canada to save her from gender violence back home. And the unaccompanied minor had to navigate a new life and a complex refugee system by herself.

According to the Centre for Refugee Children in Toronto, each year 400 to 500 unaccompanied and separated children come to Canada for asylum, about half of them destined for Ontario. They flee conflict zones and persecution based on race and ethnicity, as well as family violence. Their parents often don't have the resources to get the whole family out, and make a bid to keep their children safe.

While helping these minors with school enrolment, income support and refugee claim process are all important, finding them a safe place to stay is an immediate challenge, said Steve Meagher, director of the centre, which was founded in 2021 to provide specialized support to unaccompanied and separated refugee children.

That's what prompted the organization this month to open Anchor House - a five-room, 12-bed facility at an undisclosed location in the city to house newly arrived minor refugees who are here on their own. It's believed to be the first emergency housing in Canada dedicated to unaccompanied refugee children and youth.

While unaccompanied claimants under 16 are referred by immigration and border authorities to the Children's Aid Society and placed in foster care, the 16- and 17-year-olds often find their way in regular homeless shelters or stay with in the community. Those settings are not designed to meet their unique needs, said Meagher.

He estimates that about 15 per cent of unaccompanied minors stay in homeless shelters with another 15 per cent in foster care placements. The remaining 70 per cent are housed by relatives and acquaintances.

“What we often find with children is that the kind of trajectory of their refugee claim is often determined from those first decisions and the most first steps,” said Meagher.

“It's really important that children are supported, that they understand what their rights are and what resources are available to them. If not, they are quite a vulnerable population and they can be taken advantage of or given incorrect information.”

Refugee youth, already coping with past trauma and family separation, can be overwhelmed by the new environment and culture, during what can be a stressful asylum process. Some face language barriers when accessing support.

“We want to create a safe haven when they arrive,” said Feven Iket, Anchor House's site co-ordinator. “We want to create a space where they feel at home, a space where they feel settled. Loneliness is the hardest part for them all.”

Adam fled war in Sudan, and his older brother was killed after they were separated from their parents and siblings. He finally arrived alone in Vancouver in December 2023 after a long journey through Chad, Turkey, Colombia, El Salvador and Nicaragua.

“It was very scary when I was travelling across those countries,” said the now 18-year-old, who asked that his last name be withheld while he's trying to secure his permanent residence in Canada. “I was afraid police would catch me. I couldn't think of what's going to happen next.” Knowing a bit of French, but no English, the then 17-year-old initially stayed in a homeless shelter and decided to take a train to Montreal. But he ran out of money and only made it to Toronto. He went to a mosque for help, and a compatriot directed him to the Centre for Refugee Children.

He was able to continue his education in Grade 11 and stayed at a refugee shelter before moving out to a shared apartment, with meagre social assistance. He tries to work whenever he can but uses the food bank when money is tight. Adam

Adam 18 Immigrant-Sudan
Adam, 18, who came in 2023 from Sudan, is pictured silhouetted at the dining table of Anchor House. Michelle Mengsu Chang/Toronto Star

“It's been difficult but I've survived,” said Adam, who finally tracked down his parents and 13 siblings at a refugee camp in Chad last year. “I just need to be somewhere safe.”

Adam said he hopes to study engineering in university when he finishes high school this summer.

Nestled in a residential neighbourhood, the three-storey Anchor House has an intake office; a cosy family room with a sectional couch, big TV and fireplace; a bright study/activity room with four desktop computers, desks and bookshelves; and a huge communal kitchen on the ground floor.

The second floor has four bedrooms for boys, each with two single beds and night tables. There's a much bigger ensuite for four girls, with similar set-ups.

A staff member is on site at all hours to supervise residents, who get help in their asylum claim, enrolling in school, applying for government assistance and accessing health care through a case management team. The residents are provided with food at the house, though they are responsible for cleaning.

Muriithi, who graduated with a bachelor's degree in commerce from Toronto Metropolitan University last year, said she wished she didn't have to figure things out the hard way.

After her initial stay with a friend of a family friend, she met a woman at a church who took her in. She turned to the internet for information to navigate her life and knocked on the door of a youth shelter for guidance. Although she had a lawyer through legal aid, she was on her own through the asylum process without help in decision making.

Muriithi now works as a real estate agent and a co-ordinator of a youth-led project to improve the system for unaccompanied claimants.

Anchor House is more than a shelter, she said. “If you're living with other people who are unaccompanied minors to the country, you get a sense of belonging. You are not alone in this.”

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National Post

Ontario's child financial support collection agency has big problems

Ontario's Family Responsibility Office has many problems

Quote from Ontario Government Ombudsman -"an equal opportunity error-prone program,."'

Support recipients not getting their money.

Men who've been meeting their court-ordered obligations have trouble getting the FRO to stop taking payments when it's supposed to.   Read More ..

The Women's Post

"Canada's National newspaper for professional women"

Does the FRO have a feminist perspective?

When families fall apart, they can make for the bitterest of enemies. The intensity of their hostility, the personal rhetoric, the posturing and positioning, and the utter faithlessness of remembrance in the relationship's good deeds and consequences is a breathtaking phenomenon. It's as if the positive qualities and countless achievements are struck from history as a revisionist might strike the Holocaust. Into all of this the family court system wades, often inelegantly. Divorce lawyers drive up the emotional and financial toll of separation and transformation. Family and friends frequently collude to make things worse.

And when government decides to rear its head, well, it's a mess for all the world to see. Witness the recent attention on Ontario's euphemistically branded Family Responsibility Office. A job in advertising doubtlessly greeted the person who came up with its title, because it suggests some sort of feel-good missionary work to hold together the sanctity of the institution.   Read More ..

Auditor General Ontario

Auditor General of Ontario

Disasterous Report on the Family Reponsibility Office FRO 2010

80% of Telephone calls don't get answered

Payers and recipients do not have direct access to their assigned enforcement services officer

"There is only limited access to enforcement staff because many calls to the Office do not get through or are terminated before they can be answered."

"The Office is reviewing and working on only about 20% to 25% of its total cases in any given year."

"At the end of our audit in April 2010, there were approximately 91,000 bring-forward notes outstanding, each of which is supposed to trigger specific action on a case within one month. The status of almost one-third of the outstanding bring-forward notes was "open," indicating either that the notes had been read but not acted upon, or that they had not been read at all, meaning that the underlying nature and urgency of the issues that led to these notes in the first place was not known. In addition, many of the notes were between one and two years old."

"For ongoing cases, the Office took almost four months from the time the case went into arrears before taking its first enforcement action. For newly registered cases that went straight into arrears, the delay was seven months from the time the court order was issued."

Read the shocking report by The Auditor General of Ontario Report on the Family Responsibility Office

Women's Post Newspaper

"Canada's national newspaper for professional women"

The Family Responsibility Office Under Scrutiny

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However, the legislation did not address the problem of accountability and, as things now stand, the FRO is a threat to every Canadian affected by a government regulated support and custody arrangement system. Think of George Orwell's 1984 and you'll have a good picture of how issues are handled at the FRO.

They have legal power to extort money from Canadians, but are not responsible or accountable for their actions.

Last year an FRO staff member decided not to wait for a court date to review the financial status of an out-of-work truck driver and took it upon themselves to suspend his license because he was, understandably, behind on his payments, having lost his job earlier in the year. Although he was looking for work, the FRO cut off the only way he knew of to earn a living. His suicide note explained how he'd lost all hope. Is this what we want FRO to be doing?  Read More ..

Wicked mum murdered son, 8, with electrical cables after he caught her in sex romps with his granddad

The Mirror, UK, October 19 2016

Vicious Veronica Panarello throttled her son Loris to death and abandoned his body in a remote gully after he found out about the fling.

Veronica Panarello, the mother-killer

The "manipulative" mum,  wept as she was jailed for 30 years at a court in Italy on Monday

 

A wicked mum who brutally murdered her eight-year-old son after he allegedly discovered she was having an affair with his grandfather has been jailed.

Vicious Veronica Panarello throttled her son Loris Stival with electrical cables and abandoned his body in a remote gully after he found out about the fling.

The "manipulative" mum wept as she was jailed for 30 years at a court in Italy on Monday.

Panarello, 28, had tried to pretend her son had been abducted to cover up the horrendous killing in November 2014.

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Canadian Press - New Brunswick woman ruled responsible in burning of baby's body

New Brunswick woman ruled responsible in burning of baby's body

ST. STEPHEN, N.B. - A New Brunswick judge says a woman who burned and dismembered her newborn son is criminally responsible for her actions.

Becky Sue Morrow earlier pleaded guilty to offering an indignity to a dead body and disposing of a newborn with the intent of concealing a delivery.

Judge David Walker ruled Friday that the 27-year-old woman may have been suffering from a mental disorder when she delivered the baby but that that was not the case when the baby's body was burned and its remains hidden.

It is not known if the baby was alive at the time of birth.

At a hearing last month, the court heard contrasting reports from the two psychiatrists. One said Ms. Morrow was in a "disassociated" mental state when the crime occurred. The other said she clearly planned her actions and understood the consequences.

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