Men of Courage bare sex abuse
Conference delves into victimization of men
Toronto Sun, by Tamara Cherry, Tuesday, March 18, 2008
It started as "hazing" at a military college in Ottawa.
The three men who sexually assaulted a teenaged Mike Church in 1957 said they were just giving him what he wanted. He was aroused, after all.
But for each of the three or four times a week Church was assaulted over the next nine months, he knew it was wrong.
And when he finally got the guts to tell a counsellor six months later, he was told, "Get over it," Church, 67, recalled yesterday at the first provincial conference on male sexual victimization. "You're not the first kid it happened to and you won't be the last."
That counsellor was right on one count -- it's estimated that one in five men have been sexually abused as a child.
Church buried his abuse beneath his skin, where it could boil up at any time. Like when he became a prostitute and heroin addict in his early 20s. And throughout his years as an alcoholic banker.
Church systematically set out to destroy his marriage, he says, thanking God his wife loved him enough to stay.
'PROBLEMS WITH SEX'
"To be honest, I've had problems with sex all my life," he says. "To me, sex involves winners and losers. Every time I've gone to bed with my wife, those three men have been with me in bed."
Not until he was 62 did Church tell his wife and daughter of the abuse. Now he's an advocate for abuse survivors.
Bill Staubi, 53, didn't tell anyone about his abuse until his 40s, even though he was about 8 when his friend's dad sexually abused him.
Staubi is the president of Ottawa-based The Men's Project, which organized the two-day Men of Courage conference that concludes at The Sheraton Centre today.
As a senior executive with Correctional Service of Canada, Staubi sees the histories of abuse behind many who move through the system.
"It's an impact that cuts across every strata of society," he says. "It may show up in the way they parent. It may show up in the way they teach. It may show up in the kind of policy they write for government or the kind of services they deliver at a garage."
"Sexual victimization in and of itself isn't considered a primary issue," says Antoine Quenneville, clinical associate with The Men's Project. "Often it isn't until they get into other problems that one's identified."
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Researchers from the Lucy Faithfull Foundation (LFF), a child protection charity that deals with British female sex offenders, said its studies confirmed that a "fair proportion" of child abusers were women. Donald Findlater, director of research and development, said results indicated that up to 20% of a conservative estimate of 320,000 suspected UK paedophiles were women.
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MORRISTOWN, N.J. — A 35-year-old seventh-grade teacher was charged with having sex with one of her students at least 20 times at the teacher's home.
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Female Teacher jailed for sex with boy
The Guardian, UK
August 16, 2005
A married primary schoolteacher was jailed for 15 months yesterday after admitting having sex with an underage teenage boy.
Hannah Grice, 32, pleaded guilty at an earlier hearing to two counts of indecent assault on the boy, who was aged 14 and 15 at the time of the offences.
Sentencing her at Stafford crown court, Judge John Shand told Grice, from Cannock, Staffordshire, she had abused her position of trust.
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"Some youth in each gender were exploited by women with more than three out of four (79 per cent) sexually exploited males reporting exchanging sex for money or goods with a female," said Elizabeth Saewyc, associate professor of nursing at the University of British Columbia and principal investigator for the study conducted by Vancouver's McCreary Centre Society.
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Mom drugged daughter to get her pregnant: police
Associate Press, U.S.A.
April 3, 2009
PITTSBURGH (AP) - A western Pennsylvania mother has been charged with giving her 13-year-old daughter drugs and alcohol so the woman's boyfriend could impregnate the girl without her knowing, police said Thursday.
Shana Brown, 32, is no longer able to have children but wanted to have a baby with her current boyfriend, Duane Calloway, said Uniontown Police Detective Donald Gmitter. The pair decided to drug the girl so Calloway, 40, could have sex with her, he added.
"There's some sick people on this case," Gmitter said.
Brown has been charged with endangering the welfare of a child, turned herself in Thursday and was being held in the Fayette County jail, police said. Brown's attorney did not return a call for comment.
Calloway faces several counts of attempted rape. He was arrested Wednesday and remains in jail. It was not immediately clear whether he had an attorney.
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The Guardian, UK
June 11, 2009
About 20 years ago, I gave a talk about sexual abuse to the RAF. At the end, a young airman came up to me and said, "It's not just men, you know," before hurriedly walking away. That pulled me up sharp. Up till then, like most people working in the area of sexual abuse, I'd always assumed the abusers were men.
This just isn't so. We can't be sure of the precise prevalence of sexual abuse by women, as there hasn't been enough research into the subject. Academics have just assumed it doesn't happened. But conservative estimates suggest that 5% of girls and 20% of boys who have reported being abused have been abused by women. From my own research - I have had 800 cases reported to me - I believe the more likely figure is that it is 20% of all sexual abuse that is done by women.
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The Sakai branch of the Osaka District Court convicted Shizue Tamura, 27, a resident of Izumi, Osaka Prefecture, of inflicting bodily injury.
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The mother of one victim said after Bromiley was jailed: "If I could get hold of her I'd kill her. She stole my son's childhood and he's now in a terrible state and has threatened suicide. She got away lightly and should have got at least 10 years."
Judge David Hale explained that he was constrained by the law which only allows for specific charges to be brought when the offender is a woman. Had she been male, he said, the sentence would have been in double figures.
He said: "As a house mother you were in charge of children who were mentally and educationally disadvantaged and you took your own advantage of them for your own needs and sexual pleasure. This is the worst case of a woman abusing children in her care any court in the land has had to face." Read More ..
The Men's Project
"Men
of Courage"
1st Ontario Provincial Conference on Male Sexual Victimizations.
It was held March 17-18, 2008
Sheraton Centre Hotel
Toronto, Ontario, Canada
The Men's Project, an Ottawa / Cornwall registered charitable service provider with the assistance of a grant from the Ministry of the Attorney General, hosted this conference.
About The Men's Project
From what was initially a volunteer run initiative, The Men's Project has
grown to become one of Canada's leading counselling and educational agencies
for men and their families, and in particular for all male survivors of
sexual abuse committed by males and females.
The Men's Project has witnessed incredible expansion of their funded services, their fee-for-service programs, and their training and consultation services.
Their mandate is "helping men and their families build better lives". Read More ..