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Fathers' bill of rights makes excellent gift

The StarPhoenix, Saskatoon, SK, by Bruce Wood, Special to The StarPhoenix, Friday, June 16, 2006

Following is the viewpoint of the writer, chair of Men's Resource Centre of Saskatoon, an organization committed to supporting men in becoming even better fathers, partners and members of society.

For North Americans, Father's Day means many things; for some it means ties, brunches, barbecues and golf, while for others it may signal an occasion for reflection.

Reflection on how "fathering" has been changing and continues to change, and on how well we men are doing at keeping up with the changing expectations of fathers by society, our partners and our children.

As a society we have a complicated relationship with fathers. We celebrate the ideal of the hard working dad who is more committed to family than he is to career advancement, yet many workplaces are not supportive of fathers who practice this ideal. We expect men not to repeat mistakes made by some of their fathers, but mock men who ask for help in changing direction. We admire the courage of men who become "stay at home fathers," yet label them as Mr. Mom.

From time to time in the media and courts we hear about something called "fathers' rights." Organizations exist in Canada that purport to speak for fathers' rights but some of these seem more angry at women than they are supportive of men.

The Men's Resource Centre of Saskatoon is not a "fathers rights organization." However, we would like to propose our idea of a "father's bill of rights" for consideration. It's not an exhaustive list, but maybe it can provide for a start:

Fathers' Bill of Rights
Fathers have the right to express their feelings in private or public, and in front of their partners and their children freely and openly. This includes crying and expressing fear.

Fathers have the right to express anger, frustration and impatience in ways that are not abusive to others.

Fathers have the right to say "no" to extra work, extra pay, and even career advancement when it means having less contact with their families.

Fathers have the right to teach their children that racism, homophobia and sexism are wrong -- no matter what their drinking buddies might say.

Fathers have the right to use the words "I don't know" when they don't know something rather than pretend to be experts on every subject on earth.

Fathers have the right to ask for directions when lost, help when in need, caring and compassion when desired and guidance when struggling.

Fathers have the right to hold their son or daughter's hand in public without getting strange looks (of course the sons or daughters may have something to say about this).

Fathers have the right to listen to their children without feeling compelled to "fix" everything that is worrying or challenging them.

Fathers have the right to support their children in whatever legitimate recreation, sport, pastime or other pursuit they choose without attempting to re-live their own unsuccessful careers through their sons and daughters.

Fathers have the right to love their children without reservation regardless of their career choices, physical appearance, lifestyles, sexual orientation or sexual identity, religious or political beliefs or any other aspect of their life that may be different from their own.

Fathers have the right to model a healthy lifestyle for their children through diet, exercise, avoidance of substance abuse and regular visits to health care practitioners.

Fathers have the right to model and teach non-violent forms of conflict resolution.

Fathers have the right to enjoy the company of their children, to laugh, play, and to be "silly" until our sons and daughters roll their eyes back in their heads and plead "Oh Dad, must you be like that! You are so silly."

Such a bill of rights could be the best Father's Day gift of all -- better than a cellphone or a set of golf clubs, better even than breakfast in bed. It's the gift of helping the next generation of fathers to start out on the right path.

The StarPhoenix (Saskatoon) 2006

Paternity Fraud
UK National Survey

Paternity fraud survey statistics

Scotland's National Newspaper

96% of women are liars, honest

5,000 women polled

Half the women said that if they became pregnant by another man but wanted to stay with their partner, they would lie about the baby's real father.

Forty-two per cent would lie about contraception in order to get pregnant, no matter the wishes of their partner.

Paternity Fraud - TV Show - Canada

CBC News Sunday

Paternity Fraud TV Show
CBC News: Sunday

CBC News Sunday- TV Show - paternity Fraud - Canadian Children's Rights Council - Judith Huddart

An indepth look at paternity fraud, men's and children's rights. 10 minutes.

This segment of CBC News: Sunday was on a paternity fraud case in which the husband was ordered to pay child support for 2 children which weren't his biological children.

Globe and Mail - Paternity Fraud statistics for Canada

Canada's largest
national newspaper

Mommy's little secret

The article contains info about children's identity fraud at The Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

December 14, 2002.

Includes interview with employees of Hospital for Sick Children in Toronto, Ontario, Canada who admit they deny children's identity information to husbands/male partners of mothers who want to hide the real identity of their child because they had an affair. The U.N. Convention on the Rights of The Child specifically supports a child's human right to have a relationship with both his/her biological parents. In addition, this article is proof that The Hospital for Sick Children ("Sick Kids") supports paternity fraud.

Further "Sick Kids" supports a mother's rights only, which they view, supersedes 3 other people's rights, namely, the rights of the biological father, the rights of the mother's male partner/husband and the child's identity rights.

BBC News logo

One in 25 fathers 'not the daddy'

Up to one in 25 dads could unknowingly be raising another man's child, UK health researchers estimate.

Increasing use of genetic testing for medical and legal reasons means Read More ..uples are discovering the biological proof of who fathered the child.

The Liverpool John Moores University team reached its estimate based on research findings published between 1950 and 2004.

The study appears in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health.

Biological father
Professor Mark Bellis and his team said that the implications of so-called paternal discrepancy were huge and largely ignored, even though the incidence was increasing.

In the US, the number of paternity tests increased from 142,000 in 1991 to 310,490 in 2001.

Paternity Fraud - Spain Supreme Court - Civil Damages

Daily Mail UK

Adulterous woman ordered to pay husband £177,000 in 'moral damages'

The Daily Mail, UK
18th February 2009

An adulterous Spanish woman who conceived three children with her lover has been ordered to pay £177,000 in 'moral damages' to her husband.

The cuckolded man had believed that the three children were his until a DNA test eventually proved they were fathered by another man.

The husband, who along with the other man cannot be named for legal reasons to protect the children's identities, suspected his second wife may have been unfaithful in 2001.