Divorce judge killed by wife after paternity tests show he wasn't their son's real dad
Necmi Arslan was found dead in his Istanbul apartment which he shared with his wife Hande and the three-year-old he thought he had fathered.
The Mirror, UK, By Lorraine King, Assistant News Editor, 19 Apr 2023
A divorce judge was burned with boiling oil and stabbed by his wife after he threatened to leave her when paternity tests showed he was not their son's biological dad.
Victim Necmi Arslan, 54, was found dead in his Istanbul apartment which he shared with his wife Hande and the three-year-old he thought he had fathered.
Now - Turkish media has revealed - he was killed by his 43-year-old wife after he confronted her with evidence that he was not the boy's dad.
The pair became lovers while Judge Arslan was handling Hande's divorce case.
When she told him she was pregnant and he was the father, he believed her and married her as soon as her divorce came through.
But the truth emerged when he tried to register himself as the boy's father and the court requested a DNA test, which revealed it was 99.99 per cent likely that Hande's ex-husband was the dad.
Investigators believe that when the judge confronted Hande, he insisted on a divorce and they rowed furiously, according to local media.
Suddenly Handa snatched up a pan of boiling cooking oil and hurled it at her husband before repeatedly stabbing him.
After realising what she had done, she reportedly jumped out of the third-floor apartment's window and later died in hospital of multiple injuries.
It has since emerged that when Hande became pregnant, the couple had decided to keep it secret until the trial was over, according to local media.
She had reportedly told the judge: "I got pregnant from you. We're going to have a baby."
The judge had reportedly replied: "You are already getting divorced, when the case is over and the decision is finalised, we will get married."
He had added: "It's okay, don't think about terminating the pregnancy."
When Hande gave birth, the father was registered as her soon-to-be ex-husband, because the divorce proceedings were not finalised yet.
But when Necmi tried to have the child's father reregistered as himself, a Civil Court of First Instance ordered a DNA test which revealed the truth.
The three-year-old child has reportedly been handed over to his biological father.
Paternity Fraud TV Show
CBC News: Sunday
An indepth look at paternity fraud, men's and children's rights. 10 minutes.
This segment of CBC News: Sunday was on a paternity fraud case in which the husband was ordered to pay child support for 2 children which weren't his biological children.
Fathers demand mandatory paternity testing
A men's rights group has called for mandatory paternity testing of all babies after government figures revealed almost 600 instances of men compelled to financially support children they did not father.
Since changes to child support laws four years ago, there had been 586 cases of men successfully using DNA testing to show they were not biologically related to children they had been financially supporting, the federal government has revealed to The Australian.
Parental Alienation: A Mental Diagnosis?
Some experts say the extreme hatred some kids feel toward a parent in a divorce is a mental illness
U.S. News & World Report
October 29, 2009
From an early age, Anne was taught by her mother to fear her father. Behind his back, her mom warned that he was unpredictable and dangerous; any time he'd invite her to do anything-a walk in the woods, a trip to the art store-she would craft an excuse not to go. "I was under the impression that he was crazy, that at any moment he could just pop and do something violent to hurt me," says Anne, who prefers that only her middle name be used to guard her family's privacy. Typical of a phenomenon some mental-health experts now label "parental alienation," her view of him became so negative, she says, that her mother persuaded her to lie during a custody hearing when the couple divorced. Then 14, she told the judge that her dad was physically abusive. Was he? "No," she says. "But I was convinced that he would [be]." After her mother won custody, Anne all but severed contact with her father for years.
If a growing faction of the mental-health community has its way, Anne's experience will one day soon be an actual diagnosis. The concept of parental alienation, which is highly controversial, is being described as one in which children strongly attach to one parent and reject the other in the false belief that he or she is bad or dangerous. "It's heartbreaking," says William Bernet, a child and adolescent psychiatrist and professor at Vanderbilt University School of Medicine, "to have your 10-year-old suddenly, in a matter of weeks, go from loving you and hiking with you...to saying you're a horrible, ugly person." These aren't kids who simply prefer one parent over the other, he says. That's normal. These kids doggedly resist contact with a parent, sometimes permanently, out of an irrational hate or fear.
Affair led to mother murdering her own kids
Days after buying another woman Valentine's Day flowers, a Sydney father came home to find a trail of blood leading him to the bodies of his two young children lying next to their mother, a court has been told.
Australian Associated Press
Aug 24 2009
The woman had given the couple's three-year-old daughter and four-year-old son rat poison and an unidentified pink liquid before smothering them and killing them, court papers said.
She then tried to take her own life, the NSW Supreme Court was told.
Doctors agree the mother, from Canley Heights in Sydney's west, was suffering from "major depression" when she poisoned her children on February 19 last year.
She has pleaded not guilty to the two murders by reason of mental illness.
As her judge-alone trial began, the mother's lawyer told Justice Clifton Hoeben his client didn't think life was worth living after learning about her husband's affair.
Baby-faced boy Alfie
Patten is father at 13
The Sun, UK
13 Feb 2009
Baby-faced Alfie, who is 13 but looks more like eight, became a father four days ago when his girlfriend Chantelle Steadman gave birth to 7lb 3oz Maisie Roxanne.
He told how he, at 12 years old, and Chantelle, 15, decided against an abortion after discovering she was pregnant.
Adulterous woman ordered to pay husband £177,000 in 'moral damages'
The Daily Mail, UK
18th February 2009
An adulterous Spanish woman who conceived three children with her lover has been ordered to pay £177,000 in 'moral damages' to her husband.
The cuckolded man had believed that the three children were his until a DNA test eventually proved they were fathered by another man.
The husband, who along with the other man cannot be named for legal reasons to protect the children's identities, suspected his second wife may have been unfaithful in 2001.
Mother sentenced to more than two years jail time in connection to death of infant son
The Toronto Star, April 3 2013
A woman has been sentenced to 27 months in prison in connection to the death of her nine-week-old son in a bizarre case where the infant boy's body has yet to be recovered.
Both parents Ricky Ray Doodhnaught, 32, and Nadia Ayyad, 24, have been implicated in the case that dates back to November 2011 when Children's Aid workers along with York Regional Police attempted to seize two children under a court order from a Vaughan home.
CanadianCRC editor's comments:
Notice how the female writer of this article states that he was the child's father ( in the phrase "their son's" ) although he wasn't the "real dad"
This is why the Canadian Children's Rights Council advocates for mandatory paternity testing right after birth for all children. All children in Canada are tested automatically for 28+ medical conditions immediately after birth that are treatable starting at birth.
This would never have happened if mandatory paternity testing had been done to support the child's identity rights and the right to be raised by his bioliogical father.